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Exchange On-Line Strengthening Communities, Improving Relationships
June 2005

Dear Ruth,

We're talking about elevator speeches this month. Here's one of my favorites from an IRS agent weary of the fear and loathing his position generated. When asked what he does, he responds:

"Me? I'm a government fundraiser. Our group raises needed funds for the various other departments within the government. I'm Richard Charles, but few call me Rich. (Here he pauses and smiles.) And what do you do? Raise it or spend it?"

In this issue
  • ON MY MIND...Dom's Wanderings
  • What's New - June Headlines
  • Kudos for Andrew
  • 25 Words or Less
  • Mark Your Calendar

  • What's New - June Headlines
    Mosaic Coalition Logo

    PRHS Project Success students have their year-end celebration this week. Their first year has been a busy one -- roller skating, parades, lots of good times. But they've been working on their attendance and grades, too. And some very practical things like learning to fill out applications for summer jobs. Way to go!

    YABC Year-End Celebration - in the PeacePower tradition the Young Adult Borough Center held it's year-end celebration June 15th to honor new graduates, good grades, improved grades, contributions to community life, and just about everything else they could think of. YABC serves older students, many of whom dropped out and now attend YABC in the evening while working. How many people graduated? We won't know for sure for awhile. The diplomas come from the student's home school, so the guidance counselors there still have to sort through all the credits. But everyone agreed, it's been a great year with lots accomplished. Congratulations to all.

    Kathy Vaughan reports that several people responded to her request for opportunities to talk about mediation. This spring staff have been to all three police precincts, two precinct community councils and several PTAs. If you have a group that could benefit from knowing more about mediation she'd love to oblige.

    The Community Dispute Resolution Center welcomes Gary Carsel as a case manager. Gary is no newcomer to the New York Center, though. He's been an active volunteer here since 2001. Gary has mediated in Manhattan through the New York Metropolitan Better Business Bureau. In Staten Island and the Bronx he's mediated Civil and community Mediations and arbitrated the Lemon Law .

    The First World/Fifth National Mediation Conference: "A route towards a culture of peace" will take place in the city of Hermosillo, Sonora, Mexico next November. Yo u can visit their website for more details.

    Read about the New Beginnings Cultural Extravaganza in the SI Advance article now on our website.

    Mosaic Youth Fest plans underway - 300 youth groups meet regularly on SI - faith-based, teen centers, after-school programs, -- all kinds of youth groups. And now plans are underway to hold a Mosaic Youth Fest in the fall. We're reaching out to groups and individual young people to participate in the planning, train to facilitate workshops, develop publicity and outreach, and about a thousand other things. For more information contact Mike Baver at 718-815-4557, x24.


    Kudos for Andrew
    Teen Mental Health

    Andrew brought the house down at our recent breakfast fundraiser. The placemats on the table were blowups of his tenth grade report card -- grade average 45.4 %. Pretty pathetic.

    Andrew was straight about it. He was up to no good in high school. Drugs, alcohol, absenteeism, and, yes, violence. The last straw was slugging the assistant principal in the cafeteria. He was out. New Beginnings wasn't really a choice for him.

    Then he talked about what happened at New Beginnings. How things were different; the staff here tapped into a different part of him. He began to change.

    He stood before a group of forty adults and told us what it meant to him that his parents could now be proud of him. That he was bringing them joy, not pain. That New Beginnings had, indeed, brought him a new beginning.

    Then he asked us to open the envelope. Inside was a copy of his most recent report card - grade average 84.29 %. He brought the house down.

    Andrew Paniagua was one of several at our fundraising breakfast who shared stories of the NY Center changing lives. Your contributions of time, money, and moral support make these changes possible.

    Thanks to students Tanasia Peat for her poetry, Husayn Whigham, Paul Outlaw, and Kevin Hurd from McKee After 3 for facilitating Big Wind Blows; Andrew Paniagua from New Beginnings; Alex Korkov from the SI Office of the Commission on Human Rights who spoke about the Mosaic Coalition; and Andrew Greenfield, Asst. Principal, PRHS, who told folks that Andrew's isn't a unique story. He sees the impact the NY Center staff makes everyday.


    25 Words or Less
    SI Irish Festival

    Have you got a personal or organization-wide elevator speech? You know, that 45 second speech about what you do that takes less time than an elevator trip from the top floor to the lobby. The point - to provide a ready answer to the question (in our case) 'What is it that NY Center does?'

    It's common wisdom in the 'for profit' world to have one that's for potential customers, another when you're looking for job leads, and one for that venture capitalist you run into by chance. Well, we need one, too for potential donors, funders, clients and volunteers. One that staff, mediators, volunteers, and board can all use so our message is clear.

    We want it to generate interest. Stimulate questions. Twenty-five words or less is ideal. No jargon - just real world benefits we provide to our community. We tried one approach in our special events issue last week but we're not satisified yet.

      The New York Center for Interpersonal Development finds ways to strengthen communities and build relationships by learning and teaching the tools to resolve conflicts and support one another.

    Try your hand at it. All submissions welcome. Maybe Dom will spring for a prize. We'd love to see any speech you develop for yourself or another organization, too. We'll post them on our website with a link to yours - an advertisement of sorts-to spur creativity.


    Mark Your Calendar

    Friday, June 17, 8:00 AM - 5:00 PM -ACRGNY Annual Conference - ADR: WAVE OF THE FUTURE OR FALSE PROPHECY? Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law. For details visit: WWW.ACRGNY.ORG

    Friday, June 17, 1-2 pm
    Tuesday, June 28, 8-9 am
    Thursday, July 14, 6-7 pm
    Come Get to Know Us - Join us for a one- hour conversation about how we strengthen communities and improve relationships. We won't run overtime. We won't ask for money. We just want you to know us. 130 Stuyvesant Place, 5th floor. RSVP Liz Bonici or 718-815-4557, x 30

    June 23, 24, 26,27, 28 : Divorce Mediation Training with Adam Berner, NY Center Training Institute. For details, check here or call Kathy Vaughan at 718-815-4557, ext 25.

    Wednesday, June 29 Beyond Bias, From Tolerance to Trust, Building Trust Skills in Diverse Communities Sponsored by Project Hospitality, this year's summit begins with a panel of leaders who've worked to create diverse and vibrant communities. We'll break into discussion groups to share ideas and strategize. For more information contact Kathy Vaughan at 718-815-4557

    Thursday, July 7 - Mosaic Coalition Meeting - Help us plan the 2005 Celebrate Diversity event. This year we honor our Indian, Cuban, Irish, Jewish and Albanian friends and neighbors. All are welcome. For more information contact Angela D'Aiuto at 718-815-4557, x18


    ON MY MIND...Dom's Wanderings

    June is a wonderful month for me. I get to see the results of all the labor our youth development staff invests in youngsters all year long.

    The school- based programs are ending with celebrations of accomplishments. Young people are looking back with pride and forward with excitement.

    Great things have happened, and I want to state a public 'thank you' to the staff.

    On the mediation front, we've been thinking about what comes after the conflict is resolved.

    How do people heal? So often long term relationships suffer breaks that seem irrevocable.

    A recent client talked with us about the pain of losing a longtime friend over a conflict between their children. Should he just let it go? Or could conflict resolution skills help patch the relationship, too?

    A restorative justice framework brings healing and restitution into the equation.

    Can we, should we add a new service? How would we describe it? It's a concept worth exploring on a summer afternoon.

    On another note, my thanks to all of you at the Imagine Breakfast. Thank you for spending the time with us. We received gifts from $5 to a $1000 and we're grateful for every one. Your gifts contribute to changing lives.

    Thank you. Have a great month.

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